At blive afskediget som projektleder kan føles som mere end blot et jobtab – det medfører usikkerhed, tvivl på egne evner og svære karrierespørgsmål. Denne episode indeholder en livepaneldebat med tre PM’er, der har været igennem det og er kommet styrkede ud på den anden side, og som tilbyder ærlige perspektiver og praktiske råd til at navigere i karriereskift.
Nicolassa Galvez, Thako Harris og Nadaa Baqui deler deres personlige historier om afskedigelser, de erfaringer, de har gjort sig, og det, der hjalp dem med at genopbygge deres karrierer. Fra freelancearbejde til karriereskift giver de indblik til alle, der står over for en afskedigelse eller ønsker at fremtidssikre deres karriere på et ustabilt arbejdsmarked.
Højdepunkter fra interviewet
- Nadaas fyringshistorie [02:10]
- Nadaa blev uventet fyret i sommeren 2024, selv om hun var blevet tildelt et nyt projekt.
- Det var hendes første fyring, og hun følte sig knust, fortabt og økonomisk presset.
- I begyndelsen havde hun svært ved at håndtere den pludselige forandring, savnede arbejdets rutine og bekymrede sig om sine jobmuligheder.
- Hun tog sig tid til at bearbejde situationen, før hun opdaterede sit CV og sin portefølje.
- Til sidst fik hun en kontraktansættelse hos Skillshare i efteråret, hvor et støttende team hjalp hende med at genvinde sin selvtillid.
- Hun understregede vigtigheden af at tage sig tid til at komme sig efter en fyring, hvis økonomien tillader det.
- Nicolassas fyringshistorie [04:27]
- Nicolassa fortalte om sin fyring fra en projektlederrolle, hvor hun havde svært ved de menneskefokuserede aspekter af jobbet.
- Hun blev uventet fyret, efter at hendes chef overhørte en opmuntrende samtale med en kollega og tog det personligt.
- Fyringen var følelsesladet og indebar en vanskelig samtale på flere timer med hendes chef, som havde været en ven.
- Efter en separat fyringsrunde opgav hun sin lejlighed, fordi hun forventede økonomiske vanskeligheder, og endte med at sove på sofaer hos andre.
- Det førte til en periode med hjemløshed, der varede et par år.
- Hun indså, at hun ikke kunne vende tilbage til et fuldtidsjob med det samme på grund af den følelsesmæssige og økonomiske belastning.
- Thakos fyringshistorie [06:22]
- Thako gik fra undervisning til projektledelse, men blev fyret, efter at bureauet mistede en kunde.
- Han havde en mistanke om, at fyringen var på vej, især efter at han blev tildelt irrelevante opgaver som at rengøre lageret.
- Den faktiske fyring var akavet, idet han trøstede sin følelsesmæssigt påvirkede chef på trods af sit eget jobtab.
- I begyndelsen fortrød han, at han havde forladt undervisningens stabilitet på trods af den lave løn.
- Han fandt følelsesmæssig lindring gennem cykling og støtte fra kontakter i reklamebranchen.
- En designerven hjalp med at forbedre hans CV, hvilket førte til et nyt job gennem et rekrutteringsbureau.
- Det job sluttede igen på grund af kontraktrelaterede beslutninger om fyringer, hvilket fik ham til at reflektere over ustabiliteten på reklamebureauer.
- Til sidst fik han en langsigtet stilling, der varede næsten syv år, takket være en anbefaling fra en cykelkontakt.
- Han beskrev jobsøgningen som en mørk og usikker tid, der føltes som gambling, men understregede værdien af forbindelser i den virkelige verden.
- Strategier til jobsøgning [09:53]
- Nadaa følte sig oprindeligt flov over sin fyring, men åbnede sig til sidst og delte det med sit netværk.
- At tale med venner og kontakter hjalp hende med at få støtte og jobmuligheder.
- Hun brugte betydelig tid på LinkedIn, hvor hun læste opslag og genoptog kontakten med tidligere kolleger.
- Hendes nuværende rolle kom fra et LinkedIn-opslag fra en person, hun tidligere havde arbejdet sammen med.
- Hun understregede, at det er langt mere effektivt at bruge sit netværk end blindt at sende CV’er.
- Hun fandt ud af, at mange jobopslag havde urealistiske krav, hvilket gjorde netværk endnu mere værdifuldt.
- Overgang fra projektledelse til coaching og legatansøgninger [11:13]
- Nicolassa valgte at forlade projektledelse, efter at hun indså, at det krævede menneskelige færdigheder, som hun ikke var villig til at udvikle, især evnen til at lede opad.
- Hun erkendte sine styrker inden for systemer og organisering, men havde svært ved ledelsesdynamikker.
- Hun var allerede begyndt på en coachingcertificering, før hun blev fyret, hvilket hjalp med at guide hendes næste skridt.
- Hun brugte et veldesignet, kompetencebaseret CV med et link til sin LinkedIn-profil, så det var nemmere at opdatere og søge job.
- Hun vendte tilbage til at skrive legatansøgninger på grund af arbejdets mere rolige og selvstændige karakter, som passede til hendes behov for selvstændighed og refleksion.
- Hendes karriereskifte var baseret på, hvad der passede til hende, og på selvindsigt – ikke kun på fyringen.
- Nicolassa anbefalede at bruge funktioner til nemme ansøgninger, såsom “ansøg med ét klik”, på jobplatforme, når man føler sig udmattet af jobsøgningen.
- Hendes nuværende job med at skrive legatansøgninger kom fra en simpel CV-indsendelse uden en ansøgning.
- Et veldesignet CV fra en ven hjalp hende med at skille sig ud.
- Hun understregede, at det nogle gange kun kræver én vellykket ansøgning.
- At bevare selvtilliden gennem afslag [14:05]
- Thako håndterer stressen ved jobsøgningen ved at cykle og lytte til intens træningsmusik for at forbedre sit humør og sin energi.
- Afslag og manglende svar, især fra automatiserede svar, kan føles følelsesmæssigt udmattende.
- Han understregede styrken ved netværk frem for uopfordrede ansøgninger, især gennem LinkedIn.
- Personlige forbindelser – selv fjerne forbindelser – kan gøre en enorm forskel, når det handler om at blive bemærket.
- Han foreslog gradvist at opbygge en god relation på LinkedIn i stedet for straks at bede om tjenester.
- Nadaa sagde, at det krævede støtte fra venner og familie – hendes personlige “heppekor” – at forblive positiv gennem afslag.
- Afslag føltes især hårde, når hun ikke havde et job til at holde sig beskæftiget, hvilket gjorde det sværere at bevare motivationen.
- Hun understregede, at man skal huske sin egen værdi og erfaring, selv når svarene er få.
- Det hjalp hende med at komme gennem de svære øjeblikke at være konsekvent, modstandsdygtig og møde op hver dag.
- Hun tror på, at vedholdenhed til sidst fører til, at noget lykkes.
- Thako håndterer stressen ved jobsøgningen ved at cykle og lytte til intens træningsmusik for at forbedre sit humør og sin energi.
- At håndtere destabilisering [17:20]
- Nicolassa sagde, at følelsen af ustabilitet efter en fyring aldrig forsvinder helt.
- Hendes første fyring i 2012 føltes dybt personlig og var mere knyttet til hendes personlighed end til hendes evner.
- Hun har fortsat svært ved at blive værdsat for sine resultater, men ikke for den, hun er.
- Hun anerkender den vedvarende udfordring med selvværd, især fordi kvinder ofte lærer, at deres værdi ligger i det, de gør, og ikke i det, de er.
- Selv om tingene kan blive bedre med tiden, er den følelsesmæssige påvirkning fra fyringer fortsat en vedvarende udfordring.
- Thako opretholder en daglig rutine for at forblive produktiv og undgå at fare vild i endeløs jobsøgning.
- Han fokuserer på strukturerede opgaver som at stå op, spise, gå ture og tjekke LinkedIn i korte intervaller for at bevare produktiviteten.
- Han oplever, at små øjeblikke af glæde, som en tur i solen, hjælper med at bevare balancen og taknemmeligheden.
- Han anerkender, at selv om andre måske kommer med beroligende “floskler” om jobsøgning, er det svært at føle sådan, indtil man er i arbejde igen.
- Han tror på, at rutiner og taknemmelighed hjælper ham med at håndtere usikkerheden ved freelanceprojektledelse.
- Nicolassa sagde, at følelsen af ustabilitet efter en fyring aldrig forsvinder helt.
Mød vores gæst
Thako Harris er en erfaren ekspert inden for drift og ressourceplanlægning med over 11 års erfaring inden for projektledelse. Hans kundeliste omfatter genkendelige brands som Subaru, Noom, GNC og Comcast. Senest stod Thako i spidsen for en afdeling med otte erfarne projektledere, hvor fokus var på procesimplementering, ressourcestyring, udnyttelsesgrad og rentabilitet, samtidig med at han selv administrerede sin egen kundeportefølje. Med en bred vifte af karriereerfaringer bidrager Thako med et friskt, menneskeligt perspektiv på bureauets drift.

Det er de små ting, der gør livet behageligt, uanset om du har et arbejde eller ej. Prøv at være opmærksom på dem – taknemmelighed er det, der virkelig hjælper dig med at fortsætte.
Thako Harris
Nicolassa Galvez er administrerende direktør og grundlægger af Chingona Coach, en transformerende coachingplatform, der har til formål at styrke kvinder, som føler sig overset og undervurderet i deres karrierer. Som en “anti-karrierecoach” udfordrer hun traditionelle fortællinger om succes ved at hjælpe klienter med at genvinde deres værdi, definere succes på deres egne præmisser og navigere i professionelle miljøer med autenticitet og selvtillid. Gennem sin coaching skaber Nicolassa et fællesskab, hvor kvinder kan frigøre sig fra begrænsende overbevisninger og trives både personligt og professionelt.

Projektledelse handler om mennesker. Jeg kunne opbygge de bedste systemer og oprette de bedste opgaver, men hvis jeg ikke kunne lede opad over for den leder, der tildelte projekterne, gjorde det ingen forskel. Det var ikke lige så udfordrende at lede kolleger – det var det at lede opad, der var afgørende.
Nicolassa Galvez
Nadaa Baqui er chef for marketing og kreative processer hos Skillshare, hvor hun spiller en central rolle i at strømline marketingarbejdsgange og forbedre effektiviteten i den kreative produktion. Med en stærk baggrund inden for marketingdrift fokuserer Nadaa på at optimere processer, lede tværfunktionelle teams og sikre en gnidningsfri gennemførelse af marketingkampagner. Hendes ekspertise inden for projektledelse og kreative processer bidrager til Skillshares mission om at tilbyde tilgængelige og engagerende online læringsoplevelser.

Fokusér på, at du har en stærk portefølje af arbejde. Ét afslag definerer ikke dig. Vær vedholdende, vær modstandsdygtig, og bliv ved med at møde op hver dag. På et tidspunkt vil noget lykkes.
Nadaa Baqui
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Kelsey Alpaio: Hey, I am Kelsey! And welcome back to The Retro on the Digital Project Manager podcast, where we dig into past lessons, future trends, and what they mean for your career. Getting laid off as a project manager hits hard. It's not just about losing a job. It's about the uncertainty. It's about the what's next? How do I explain this on my resume? Should I jump back in or take a step back? Should I try freelancing? It's a lot to figure out, but you don't have to do it alone.
And that's why we're here today. We're sharing a live discussion we hosted featuring three project managers who have been laid off and rebuilt their careers.
There's Nicolassa Galvez, an anti-career coach for people who feel stuck or undervalued in their careers. Having worked in both structured corporate and mission-driven spaces, she brings her candid style to what it really means to move through tough and unexpected career transitions.
There's Thako Harris, a seasoned operations and resourcing veteran with over 11 years of experience in project management. His client roster includes recognizable brands such as Subaru, Noom, GNC, and Comcast.
And there's Nadaa Baqui who brings over 10 years of digital project manager experience. She's spearheaded cutting edge mobile and web applications built for emerging tech, including AR, VR, and AI.
Throughout the discussion, they shared raw stories about their layoffs, what they did afterward, what worked and what didn't, and advice for folks who are currently going through it. So whether you're actively job hunting, exploring new options, or just want to be prepared for whatever comes next, keep listening.
So as we get started here, I do just wanna thank all of our panelists for being here and for being willing to share your layoff stories with us. This stuff is personal. It can be emotional, and it does take a lot of courage to talk about, but as I'm sure everyone on this call knows, layoffs are way more common than we might think. And the more we talk about them, the less isolating they will become. So let's get into it and start at the beginning here.
I'm hoping that each of our panelists could share their layoff story. What happened? Where did you land, and how long did it take you to "bounce" back?
Nadaa, why don't you get us started there?
Nadaa Baqui: Thank you, Kelsey. So first of all, hey everybody. So good to see everyone from all these different parts of the world.
First, I just wanna say DPM has been such a great support for me over the years, and I'm just really glad I can be here to share my story with you today. Just in terms of my layoff journey, things have been slow for a while. Projects were not coming in, and I was a little bit worried about my future at the agency, but I wasn't expecting to be laid off when I did.
It was the summer of 2024. I had just put, been put on this new and exciting project and just like that, boom, I was hit with the news. Turns out the agency was going through a round of layoffs. I was one of the team members affected. It was my first experience with being laid off. And honestly, I was devastated.
I was lost. I didn't know what to do. And I remember the initial days I was just, I found myself like constantly refreshing my emails and just feeling so strange about not having Slack to check, not attending any meetings. I just felt empty and I was worried about my finances. Like I'm a mom, I have a mortgage to pay, and I had heard the job market was just horrible.
I was really stressed out. It really was a lot. I just needed time to process everything. That's something I did. I took that time for myself. It's something I would recommend. If you can afford to please just take that time for yourself. I think it'll help you down the line. So that's what I did.
I took that time and then I. I just worked on my resume, worked on my portfolio. Didn't really apply for jobs because I didn't feel ready. Eventually, later in the fall I landed a role at Skillshare and I think it's here. It was a contract role. The team has just been so wonderful and that just really helped my helped me feel myself again.
I think I'm in a better place right now.
Kelsey Alpaio: Yeah. Thank you for sharing that.
Nicolassa, could you tell us a little bit more about your layoff story?
Nicolassa Galvez: I've actually been fired twice and laid off, so I will share my firing story 'cause it was a project management position. My employer knew that, I was struggling with the role and just because of the middle management, realizing that I love the theory of project management and the process.
But it's a people job and it's about managing people more than managing the project, and I just didn't have that skillset. So I didn't know that I was gonna get fired. It was giving a coworker a pep talk where unknowing to me. My boss was listening in and she took it as a slight to her, the pep talk. And then a week after the meeting called me in after a staff meeting virtually.
Let me go. And then, we were friends, so it was maybe like a three hour conversation. It was really tough. After that I burst into tears and called my partner. Luckily she was there to support us financially. But I know one layoff, it was so painful. I had given notice in my apartment. My mom picked up all my stuff and went into storage 'cause I knew I wasn't gonna be able to go into a full-time position right away.
So I couch surfed. I eventually became homeless for a couple years. But it was so painful that I knew I couldn't go back into the workplace and I didn't know I was gonna become homeless when I started couch surfing. But I did know enough that I gave notice on my apartment, like as soon as I had gotten laid off 'cause I'm like, I'm not gonna be able to afford this 'cause I don't know what I'm gonna do for money, but it's not gonna be going back to a full-time job that can afford, a place to live.
Kelsey Alpaio: Oh yeah. Thank you for sharing that story as well.
Thako, can you tell us a little bit more about your layoff story?
Thako Harris: I went from teaching into project management. I guess ultimately the story is that we lost the client and so then it was hoping if we would win another one. And so in meantime, I was doing all these admin office type, cleaning out the storage room and it was just weird. I guess I suspected something might be brewing.
Yeah. And then my boss scheduled a quick 15 with no subject. And I didn't know at that time that's like a kind of a situation, so she told me the news and then I was like, weirdly comforting her 'cause she was sad and. I'm set, like I'll have no job. Like I'm not, anyway, that was crazy because in teaching it was very stable and I like enjoyed teaching a lot.
It just didn't pay very well. And I thought, oh my God, I made a huge mistake. And they wanted to go get drinks afterwards and I was like, hopefully not hanging out drinking after this. I'm, I don't know what I'm gonna do. So luckily had, I'm a cyclist, so I had rocky kind of things where I'm like going, running on the beach and listening to music and driving dark tunnels.
I don't know, but like that kind of thing. Eventually I had made connections in the ad community and people are super helpful. Like I had, I knew designers and copywriters and a lot of people that were like, I'll keep my ear out. I'll let you know if I hear anything. And a designer friend of mine redid my resume in a really cool way.
I loved and somehow with a talent agency that worked and I got another position with that, which ultimately when my contract was nearing the end, also was a factor I think that hogg me to be laid off. 'cause they didn't wanna pay the, to close out the contract, with a fee structure for me to become full-time there.
So they just, and again, I found myself like really is this what ad agency life is like every year or two in the fall when Q4 performance agencies need to be reported for bonuses for the higher ups? I'm gonna get cut until you reach some level. I don't know. That's what I, my, my thinking was at the time.
But again a lot of connections in the Minneapolis agency world and through cycling. I knew a creative director and his wife was a talent placer. She didn't take a fee I don't recall, and just recommended me to CEO and I got in there and I ended up staying at that place for se almost seven years.
So at the time, every time that happens, you think, oh man, like the first one was three months before I got a new thing. And then the second one was lucky. I was able to find another position in a month. But those times are dark. Like you were saying, refreshing and looking and it feels like gambling.
Like you're going into the digital world, you're sending these things and you have no idea, if it's gonna land or bring anything back, and it just feels like fishing or, it didn't work with the word of mouth, real connections that you make while you're working.
Kelsey Alpaio: It sounds like networking was a big piece of getting that first role.
And Nadaa, you talked a little bit about landing a contract role shortly after being laid off. Can you talk a little bit more about the strategies that helped you most in landing that role, and did you talk about your layoff in interviews? What did that process look like for you?
Nadaa Baqui: I was like, one of the first things I did when I felt ready was I talked to people about my layoff.
At first, I was hesitant. I was a little embarrassed if it's okay to share. But then I quickly realized like I, need to rely on my network. Like you said, Thako, just spoke to my friends about it. Honestly, I spent a lot of hours on LinkedIn. Like I said, I was stopping people just reading their posts. It's true. One of these posts that someone I had worked with previously, right?
Like again, someone in my network that I found my current role. Again I can't stress enough like the importance of reaching out to your network. It's just so it's an extremely useful resource. I had sent out so many resumes, just never heard back, or just if I did hear it back, it was like, Hey, we are interested in you, but do you speak German, Italian, French, English?
And I was like, I'm not Google Translate. I just felt like there was so many expectations. So I just feel like your network, your LinkedIn is really your friend here.
Kelsey Alpaio: That's really helpful advice.
And Nicolassa, I actually wanna ask you a little bit as well, because I know you've transitioned out of the project management world and are doing something a little bit different now. You're working as a grants manager and a coach, so can you tell us a little bit more about the decision to not go for another PM role? Like how did you figure out what you wanted to do and once you figured it out, how did you go from there?
Nicolassa Galvez: I had been doing project management officially, because I love it so much.
It was always part of my role. It was just coming to the realization about how much more it was about people and that, I could build the best systems and have the best, create the best tickets, but if I couldn't manage up with the leader that was assigning the projects, let alone, managing my coworkers wasn't as difficult.
It was more like the managing up. I had to admit to myself that I needed to move on from that role because I wasn't willing to learn the people skills that I think that make Project Manager so successful. And my, the last place that I got fired, they knew it. And I had started the coaching certification while I was working with them.
But then when I had gotten fired, I had looked through, I used the same resume. I have a skills-based resume, and that links to my chronological because I am just not that person that can update my resume. And also, I had a designer friend design it, and it was so gorgeous. That a lot of people accepted the skill-based and were willing to go to my LinkedIn, which I felt I could update easily and more quickly with the chronological and then the skills underneath it.
And I returned to grant writing, which is just a role that's usually more quiet and isolated. And I needed that quiet, I needed that autonomy and that isolation, it's, it hasn't been as autonomous as I'd like 'cause it is a nonprofit sector, which is very overly tight knit, but the self-reflection and making that decision about, do I wanna return to the role, not because I was fired, but was it a fit?
Kelsey Alpaio: Yeah, that makes sense. It does sound like getting a designer friend is definitely on the list of things to do.
Nicolassa Galvez: One thing, a quick advice is indeed, if you're not feeling up for the intense job application process, my current grant writing job was a one button click, sending my resume, not a cover letter, and the resume, the designer friend resume stood out and when you are so tired of job searching deeds, like one click apply feature is just a lifesaver and it works, at least once, you know is all you need.
Kelsey Alpaio: Great piece of advice. And it does lead into my next question here a little bit, which is around the rebuilding process. It's riddled with rejections and setbacks, like Nadaa you mentioned getting no after no. And so I'm wondering what advice you all have for maintaining your confidence through that process? And Thako, I'll throw this question to you first.
Thako Harris: Yeah. This is embarrassing to share, but I like to listen to like gym techno or something like this really hardcore, lift that heavy weight kind of stuff. And then I like go biking and then I usually feel better and I feel amped up and not oh, or because that gets heavy. It gets heavy when you the ghosting, which I think before you'd get a reply.
Thanks for like now auto reply and then it's like we will get in touch with you if, and then it just never, nothing can happen. So that gets pulled quick. But then back to the networking piece, I have found that if there's, and LinkedIn has the third, fourth, fifth layer connection.
If you can find that person to then do a little bit of greasing the tracks for you and because LinkedIn. I used LinkedIn to try and hire, and it was just so much, I just got overwhelmed and couldn't use it. But if someone was like, Hey, I know someone, I'm like, whoa, thank God. Like it's just night and day difference.
Oh my God. Here's someone they know, someone, they've talked to someone. It's a real person. They're not crazy. I know them. They're not crazy. And so it just makes a massive difference. So I just feel like if that, like you were saying, Nadaa, that stalking. Talk to those people and try and start building some even slight rapport that you can over, over LinkedIn and see if they're, maybe not, don't leave with that right away to Hey, will you share my rest?
You probably have to be a little more diplomatic and spend a little time and then, work your way that way.
Kelsey Alpaio: Yeah, absolutely.
And Nadaa, yeah, what tips do you have for, getting past those rejections and those no's?
Nadaa Baqui: I'm not gonna lie, I feel like I needed like my own team of cheerleaders just being like, yeah, you've got this and you can do it.
And there were times, of course you feel very low, right? Like you just don't hear back or response is so limited and you're just, you're really demotivated. It's different when you already have a job and you're applying for another job. It's different 'cause you have things that are keeping you busy.
But when you're, when you don't have, and like you, your regular work going on. It's tough. So I would say to definitely like relying on your network of family and friends is important. And then also just remembering, like just focusing on like the fact that you have a good body of work.
That one rejection is not, doesn't define you. And there are times I would forget that, but it's just like constantly just no. You have years of experience, you have a good body of work in. You can do this. Just being consistent and resilient and just showing up every day.
And then I'd feel like something will click eventually so.
Thako Harris: Yeah, any number of rejections doesn't define you.
Kelsey Alpaio: Absolutely.
I do wanna talk a little bit too about the destabilization of layoffs in both like your career and your life, going through a layoff can feel so incredibly destabilizing, and I've heard elements of that in all of your stories.
And so I'm wondering what you've done to help you regain some of that feeling of stability or does that uncertainty feeling never really go away?
Nicolassa Galvez: No, I don't think it ever goes away. My first time I was fired was in 2012. And it is a personality game. It wasn't a skill. It wasn't like I did something wrong, so I'm still grappling with loving my personality and realizing that it makes it for a challenging workplace for me.
And so that heartbreak, it feels very personal because it is a character. Or I'm really active in the community, and so I have a good reputation. So a lot of times I do get hired through my network because of my reputation or because of my outcomes or what I've built. But then, the day to day of working with me, who's, I don't know, observant, curious, a fixer, it's embracing the, they want what I can do for them, but not who I am.
That is still, such a challenging thing to accept and having to constantly remind myself. But especially as women, we're socialized that our value is in what we do and not who we are. Everyone struggles with feelings of value and I'm sad to say it does get better, but it doesn't go away.
It's still a challenge.
Kelsey Alpaio: Absolutely.
And Thako, I know we've talked about this a little bit as well, and now you know you're doing a little bit of freelance PMing, which has its own elements of destabilization and uncertainty. Can you talk to this a little bit?
Thako Harris: I think I try to keep a schedule for myself of, I build a routine that I just do.
Every day it's the same and I just limit the different things. Because you could just spin in LinkedIn, like you could just spin and spin and like chase down this and that and this and that and this and just lose any sense of you still have to do stuff for yourself. You still have to stay healthy.
You still have to maintain your life as it is. I feel like that helps provide some if I don't know what I'm doing, at least my like structures that I've set up, keep me doing the things that are productive in my life. Wake up and then do this, and then do that and then eat, and then do that, and then check, and then go for a walk and then go back and check some more and then do something else again, and then check some more.
And there's just short amounts of time to focus intensely and then switch and do it again. And then, so I find that helps provide some like feeling of being productive while also, even though those like answers might not be coming, then you can go for a walk and oh, the sun's shining.
Or there's really those small things that make life nice regardless of if you have a job or not. So try to keep those things aware in your life so that like gratitude I guess is the real thing that helps you keep going. I think, when people say, oh, it's gonna make room for better things, and you're like, when people say that to you, you're just like, I know, but you're saying that you have a job.
It's just such a, it's, it is true in some sense, but it's I don't know, I don't know exactly what I'm trying to say with that, but it just feels like one of those isms that people say and then you deal with and until you get a job, like that's an ism, and then in hindsight, it's great, but if that hindsight is not going bad, then you're like, I don't know what you're talking about.
So yeah, I find routines help me.
Kelsey Alpaio: Absolutely. And unfortunately we are out of time here. That time absolutely flew by and I just wanna thank all the panelists again for volunteering your time today and sharing your stories.
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